On Surrendering and Letting Go

 

On Surrendering and Letting Go

by 

 

Surrender by William Larsen

At our house there live

a girl, a dog, and a yardful of newly planted

flowers

 

The dog came free, the girl is priceless

and the flowers cost three hundred dollars,

a cozy scene, but complicated

in that

I love the girl, the girl loves the dog

and the dog

loves to dig my flowers

and I

 

do not love the dog

 

creating a dilemma in which I

who crave

even the illusion of control

am stymied between my needs

for the orderly completion of my desires

and

the beam of joyous fire

in the eyes of the girl,

all of which

says more about the complexities of love

than the training of neurotic dogs

and I’ve just discovered

in writing these lines

that

the dharma of this dilemma

has less to do with my training the dog

to not dig my flowers

than the dog training me

to love

the girl

To love instead of hate. . .to admit one’s faults instead of living in shame for not being perfect. . .to act on one’s passions instead of hiding your light under a bushel, these are just some of the themes that we explored this past week in our All Church Read Service on the book A Wrinkle in Time.  We were reminded during the service about the nature of the universe and our interconnectedness.  We heard Robin say, “I think people get disconnected from each other all the time.  It’s a hard to understand why , when we know it is very true that all of us are always part of an interconnected web.   Everything we do in our own life can affect another, good and bad.” To which Ana added, a note about the need to control everything. . .to know all the answers. “We all want answers but what if we acknowledged our uncertainty as being part of life, took a nice deep breath, and relaxed into it?”  And Jenny reminded us about the gift of love. “Meg has the gift of love. She fiercely loves her family, her planet, and everything that is good, right, and real-Even turkey dinner. Our Heroine, Meg, uses her love to break the cycle of mind control and brings her family together in the end.”

This month’s Touchstone Ministry Theme is Surrender-Letting Go.  Our all church read this year is a supreme expression of the art and necessity of letting go; letting go of perfectionism, shame, self-loathing, and self-centeredness. And learning the lessons and receiving the gifts only our failures and faults can provide, and receiving these gifts as dynamics of our own strength, resolve, fortitude and witness in a world too often caught in the grips of IT (you’ll have to read the book or see the movie to understand IT).  Or, as that famous sage, Anonymous once penned:

To “let go” does not mean to stop caring. It means we can’t do the inner work for someone else.

To “let go” is not to cut our selves off. It’s the realization that we can’t control others.

To “let go” is to recognize that our power is limited, which means that the outcome is often not in our hands.

To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another. It’s to focus on the work that we need to do for ourselves.

To “let go” is not to be in the middle, arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue with others, but to be mindful of our own shortcomings as we continue to grow.

To “let go” is not to expect the world to conform to our individual desires, but to take each day as it comes and to cherish all that we can.

To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to live deeply in the present.

To “let go” is to fear less and to love more.

Blessings,

Aaron

 

Letting Your Life Speak – At Home. . .and in the World!

February 2019 – Surrender & Letting Go